Five Wishes

I  am really proud to report that Robert (my husband) and I have completed our Five Wishes! This is a legal living will and it has heart and soul. We did this with a small group of dear friends in sort of a ‘workshop’ setting. The two-part process included talking about what advance directives are and how important they are if we are unable to speak due to accident or injury. We watched the DVD provided by Aging With Dignity and then broke into couples to start writing our wishes. We then enjoyed a fabulous potluck and went on home to do the homework of completing the wishes. This document invites us to look deeply at our views about death, dying and the way we would want to exit this world. It also reflects on how we would want to be cared for and remembered. It is an important tool in the death revolution!

A few weeks later we joined together again to witness the Wishes for each other and have them notarized. It was a grand celebration with plenty of heart-centered sharing and yes, even laughter. We lifted glasses of pomegranate sparkling cider and/or champagne in a toast to our courage and success. We then again enjoyed delicious food and basked in the knowing that this task will help those we love to know exactly what our wishes would be if we cannot express those for ourselves.   I highly recommend this activity and I am offering Five Wishes Coaching as a new Further Shore program.

National Healthcare Decisions Day (NHDD) exists to inspire, educate, and empower the public and providers about the importance of advance care planning.  Saturday, April 16, 2011 is the date this year. If you have not done a living will or named your health-care power of attorney perhaps it would be a good day to start the process; or just discuss it with a loved one.

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